tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post700438866693622548..comments2023-06-16T04:20:45.092-05:00Comments on BEHOLD MY BRILLIANCE *: Here's why I haven't written.Penny Karma, aka the F-Bomb Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02920792594406507263noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post-48309138732087590912009-05-26T08:50:37.645-05:002009-05-26T08:50:37.645-05:00You are amazing, truly amazing. I look at you nad...You are amazing, truly amazing. I look at you nad hope to have it "all together" when Liv gets to be Beebie's age. I think you are so great at keeping everything in perspective. You make a big deal out of things that are a big deal!!!Ferris Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06676231789726316205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post-50574138976913122782009-05-24T19:06:53.453-05:002009-05-24T19:06:53.453-05:00Kay, you've helped me feel that I'm not over-react...Kay, you've helped me feel that I'm not over-reacting. I really appreciate your sharing that.<br /><br />((hugs right back atcha))Penny Karma, aka the F-Bomb Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02920792594406507263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post-27866962758676806432009-05-24T16:52:58.104-05:002009-05-24T16:52:58.104-05:00Oh Sarah I am so sorry. My prodigal child essenti...Oh Sarah I am so sorry. My prodigal child essentially did the same thing, except started in HS. I'm not going to lie to you and say my circumstance had a good outcome because it didn't. I haven't seen her in going on 2.5 yrs now. The drugs, alcohol, thievery, and materialistic BS has gotten the best of her. <br /><br />Now, I am an extreme situation. Most of the time the kids pull their heads out of their asses. <br /><br />I will keep your daughter in my prayers, along w/ you and R. It is very hard. I know from experience.<br /><br />MOF, I am crying while typing this. It hurts me so badly.<br /><br />((Hugs and Love))<br /><br />KayDk's Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11403488889087101483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post-44836193000735476302009-05-23T16:45:53.344-05:002009-05-23T16:45:53.344-05:00Ack! I have FOUR girls! What am I going to do? ...Ack! I have FOUR girls! What am I going to do? I used to hang at the park, in the tunnels! That was loads of fun that began when I was 12. Yikes!<br /><br />I was always a sensible kid and didn't feel compelled to indulge in the unlawful activities (underage drinking and smokin' the reefer) happening around me. Peer pressure was never an issue for me.<br /><br />BUT, as a parent, even if my kids are sensible and make good decisions for themselves, no fucking way do I want them to hang around with those little park urchins.jessica ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05133686353182231739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post-47334921839707744172009-05-22T18:44:46.809-05:002009-05-22T18:44:46.809-05:00Sometimes I'm happy I have two boys....buuuuut the...Sometimes I'm happy I have two boys....buuuuut then I hear what hubby did when he was a horny teenaged boy and I worry. Esp. since his mom had no.freaking.idea. God help me if I'm snowballed that easy.<br /><br />Hang tough!Bezziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11359396377873745454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post-11958030814852009452009-05-22T17:14:21.028-05:002009-05-22T17:14:21.028-05:00Since my last attempt to leave a comment got lost ...Since my last attempt to leave a comment got lost to the ether...I'll try again...<br /><br />I've said this to you, to R, and even left it as a comment on this blog, but I think it bears repeating. If I could have been assured that my kids would have turned out as well as yours, I might have reconsidered not having any.<br /><br />I'm not a parent, but I've played one on TV. (well sort of...) I worked in a residential child care facility with kids that were unable to function and thrive in a home setting - they all had emotional issues, many were survivors of abuse, and had severe behavioral issues. So my frame of reference for how children behave is a bit skewed. <br /><br />It was a locked unit, where we had more control over their lives than would ever be possible in a home setting. The units were set up so that as a staff, I could see every kid from one spot, unless they were in their rooms - and I could see when they came in or out of their rooms. They didn't have access to phones, they sure as shit didn't have internet access. And I know how hard it was for us to keep the kids from doing things that they knew were wrong. So yeah, I'm not a parent, but I've done all the not fun parts - administering consequences, bandaging cuts, restraining an out of control child so they do not hurt themselves or others. And I spend more time with those kids than many parents spend with their own children. But I never got the rewarding parts of the job. <br /><br />You and R have every reason to be pissed at the Beebs. And you should administer appropriate consequences to her. But you know I like to look at both sides... The fact that she is able to thwart your efforts at every turn might be seen as a testament to the intelligence and creativity that you both have instilled into her, both through genetics and parenting. Yes, she is making poor choices in how she uses those skills right now, but she is using them.<br /><br />When you showed me the path to Turtle Island the other day, I agreed whole heartedly with what you said to Beebie. I wanted to repeat it to her when we got back to Chez Karma. And I'm not even her parent - just a friend of her parents who cares about her.<br /><br />SuperWife and I may not be parents, but we'll help you guys out any way we can. And the fact that we're not parents might come in handy - who knows, the apes might listen to us. <br /><br />I know that you and R are very careful about what the apes are exposed to, and what they watch on TV. But most parents aren't. So those boys have been exposed to things that we never were as kids (just like Rip said).<br /><br />Maybe Beebs will get through her rebellious phase now before she's old enough to really cause herself trouble.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post-21396157720830333972009-05-22T07:47:04.775-05:002009-05-22T07:47:04.775-05:00I find this so scary - I know how I was at that ag...I find this so scary - I know how I was at that age (and the stuff we got away with). Good lucky - and I think you said the exactly right thing to Beeb.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14061337641173075397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post-55838778201081134592009-05-21T18:58:58.381-05:002009-05-21T18:58:58.381-05:00As much as I desperately want children, the though...As much as I desperately want children, the thought of parenting teenagers scares the shit out of me. I wish you calm and wisdom and I wish Beeb an open mind (to your counsel) and respect for your authority. You have a long road ahead of you.Beverlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15360686393599560866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post-46933317170928036802009-05-21T15:21:17.137-05:002009-05-21T15:21:17.137-05:00I break out in a cold sweat when I think about wha...I break out in a cold sweat when I think about what my TWO girls have in store for them very soon.<br /><br />Doesn't help that my karma is seriously bad from my teenage years.<br /><br />God help me.<br /><br />Amyamyloviehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16417095117296883963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post-9951406159957469772009-05-21T13:18:37.047-05:002009-05-21T13:18:37.047-05:00Sob, sob, sob. I'm going back to work in July and ...Sob, sob, sob. I'm going back to work in July and leaving my baby in daycare. I certainly hope it never makes her cry, but I'm sure it will. I certainly wouldn't say you overstepped at all, trying to ease that little one's heartache.Stickyfingershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10769656254965986375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post-30375636814976641312009-05-21T13:01:05.876-05:002009-05-21T13:01:05.876-05:00Of course another great post. My oldest daughters...Of course another great post. My oldest daughters last day of Kindergarten is today. I am happy and sad at the same time. <br /><br />It is hard seeing them go on to make their own choices but they have to do it. <br /><br />Good luck holding it together.Scott Hulberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03193120221987784173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post-21341874973447669852009-05-21T12:45:14.416-05:002009-05-21T12:45:14.416-05:00I admire you so much as a dad.I admire you so much as a dad.Penny Karma, aka the F-Bomb Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02920792594406507263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17399290.post-79467194517506865702009-05-21T12:40:31.159-05:002009-05-21T12:40:31.159-05:00As a veteran dad of 2 boys and a now-14-year-old-b...As a veteran dad of 2 boys and a now-14-year-old-boy-crazy-girl, the only thing I can think to say is that you and R have taught them to be the wonderful people that they are. THEY know what's right and what's on the edge. <br /><br />I don't think you are being overprotective, YET, but there will very soon be times when the long arm of the PK Posse law will not be around, and Beeb is gonna make her own choices, and all you can do is hope she was listening and watching you for your example of how to behave.<br /><br />My own daughter, when I asked her if she was sexually active yet, told me no, that she respects herself too much to do that so young. Hmmm. A well-placed diversionary tactic, methinks. But hey, at least I asked the question.<br /><br />Our children are growing up in a completely new age than we did. The internet makes lots of really adult things exceedingly available and the temptation is simply not fair to such young minds. By age 11, I am sure Beeb has seen all SORTS of things that we didn't see until we were MUCH older, and I am equally sure her "boyfriends" sure have. I have heard lots of stories about kids Beebs age and just a little older doing all SORTS of things that I don't want my own daughter doing, but it's becoming part of the norm. There is virtually no way to shelter them from it, unless you cross the line and become very overprotective, which has been shown to cause rebellion once they attain any freedom at all.<br /><br />It's a fine line we walk. Giving Beebs freedoms means giving her responsibilities, and she has shown you that she is not worthy of the freedoms per your own family rules. She broke a rule, plain and simple, and she will do it again, regardless of what you do. She can have friends set up accounts for her. She can go to the library and set up accounts. <br /><br />I caution against knee-jerk reactions because kids recoil from them with ever-increasing vigor as they mature. <br /><br />I'm sorry you've had a bad time of it lately. <br /><br />You know I'm here for you.Ripnoreply@blogger.com